As most North Carolina readers are probably aware, the divorce rate in the U.S. is close to 50 percent and has been for quite some time. With so many marriages coming to an end, readers may be wondering what mistakes to avoid after the divorce papers have been signed and the dust has settled. Below we list a few of the most common mistakes for divorcees to avoid.
It can be difficult to be alone after a marriage has ended. But as hard as it may be to fly solo, being single gives people an opportunity to work on themselves in order to be ready when the opportunity for a new relationship arrives. That's why it's important not to rush into another marriage. Instead, consider attending self-improvement seminars, reading self-help books, or finding a support group or coach.
When you start dating after a divorce, it may be a good idea to hold off on introducing a new love to your children. Although you may be completely over your ex, it's important to remember that it can be hurtful for kids to see a parent with a new love interest. It can also be confusing for a child if their parent enters in and out of new relationships. Therefore, it's best to wait until your feel certain the relationship is a lasting one before introducing a new love to your kids.
Oftentimes, divorcees are so busy dealing with the negative emotions associated with a divorce that they forget that it's possible to do things differently the next time around. By following a few helpful hints you can increase your chances of finding yourself in a stable, healthy relationship the next time around.
Source: Huffington Post, "Top 3 Mistakes Men Make After Divorce," Carlos Phillips, May 14, 2012